Frustrated about where you are in life? Wishing you were one of the lucky ones?
You know, those lucky stiffs that just happen to be in the right place at the right time. The ones who somehow beat the odds. Well, you’re in luck! It turns out that luck is a skill. You can learn it. Not only that, the process is fun and easy.
Well, you’ll need to take some risks. But believe me, it’s worth it. Once you acquire the skill of luck, you will never want to return to life without it.Instead of existing in the Kingdom of Frustration, you will be thriving in the Land of Luck.
Here is my personal recipe for luck.
1. Expect To Be Lucky
Most of us hate rolling out of the bed in the morning. We’re grumpy and need coffee to wake us up. But do you realize that your thoughts and behaviors control much of your fortune? Do you want grumpiness to set the tone for your day?
That’s why step #1 on the Path to Good Luck is to tell yourself first thing in the morning, “Oh, boy! I feel I will be lucky today. Why? Because I am a lucky guy!”
This sets the spirit for your entire day. Lucky people are more relaxed and open. They see what is there, in front of them. On the other hand, anxiety inhibits your ability to notice the good fortune all around you, even when it is staring you in the face!
That’s why meditation and exercise are also essential. They can help deeply relax the body, and and spirit.
2. Take More Chances
Sometimes, I am just scared to death, full of fear. Heck, full of sh*t! It’s hard to look back and see all the great chances I missed because I was too frozen in fear to just reach out my hand and grab them.
But as a student of life, I learned from experience. Out of my comfort zone, I’m still the same–someone who gets anxious and nervous. My mind races with all sorts of rational sounding excuses not to go after it.
The big thing I’ve learned is to ask myself, “What is the worst that can happen? Will I die if I take this chance?” Almost always, the answer is a resounding “No!”
If I’m not going to die, I can most likely handle what comes. And if I go for it, I can claim the reward that is waiting for me.
I know now that it is okay to sit and wait for opportunities if I feel like that’s what I want to do at that moment. But when they come, I need to reach out and grab them.
3. Open Your Eyes To Opportunities
You’re waiting for opportunity to strike? Look around you, it is surrounding you right now. All you need to do is open your eyes. It’s a fact, we only see what we are prepared to see.
If you are ready to take the leap, have faith and go for it. It starts a domino effect of right moves. Each time one domino falls over, it is loud and a bit messy. But be assured, it is still a move in the right direction, heading the way you want to go.
It may not be easy, but it will feel like a natural progression. Take this step and the next step—the way forward will become clear.
4. Be Proactive
II spent two months in Thailand on my own and I felt lonely in a very few moments to be honest. That’s because I was proactive in meeting new people.
In many macho cultures a man who smiles is looked upon as weak and not masculine enough. But early enough in my life, I could see how that actually is not true. I could see that the weak person is really the one who doesn’t dare to smile.
My strategy in Thailand was simple but effective. I was genuine, I smiled, I said “hi” first. Sometimes it was spontaneous, sometimes I had to push myself because my shyness kicked in.
But either way, I was rewarded for being proactive. I met amazing people from all over the world.
I got to do new things and meet new people. I got to go snorkeling and diving, enjoyed dinner parties with millionaires, and went to villages in the jungle. And my favorite—I played football on the beach.
5. You Deserve The Best
You can’t feel undeserving and be lucky at the same time. The two just don’t mix. I hate to say it, but if Mr. Opportunity comes banging on your door, marches in and offers you an amazing deal, you’ll just answer, “”Nah, I don’t feel ready for that,” or “No, it’s not for me.”
What you’d actually mean is, “I do not feel good enough. I feel that I do not deserve that.” How do you get around that? Just remember that you are the most important person to yourself. There is no wife, no husband, no anybody who is more important than you.
You deserve your personal happiness, it is your right, your prerogative. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been productive today or lazy, you still deserve the best.
6. Solve the Causes of Your Misfortune
In the past, I would feel sad and unlucky when I missed opportunities to go out and have fun. The cause was the simple fact that I wasn’t getting my work done on time because I was slacking off.
I accepted that I had a problem and made the firm decision to solve it. First, I started using the Pomodoro technique: work 25 minutes and rest for 5 minutes.
Second, I started using email advice from Guy Kawasaki. The idea is to not open my email for a few days, and then see if something bad happens. It works! You can save yourself a ton of time using it. The essence of this tactic is to keep busy with the important tasks, not with the urgent tasks, like email.
When I started using my time more wisely, it gave me more periods to have fun, to get a life. And for creating my own luck by taking advantage of great opportunities when they came around.